You are what you believe about yourself.
Let that sink in a little.
The things you say to yourself when you “mess up,” or when life doesn’t go your way.
The opportunities you avoid because you don’t believe you’ll be able to pull them off.
The failures you envision before they even happen.
The way you feel when you look in the mirror.
All of this—all of it—was ingrained in your subconscious long ago. Your parents (or caregivers) modeled behaviors and used language that shaped you and your behaviors.
We absorb messaging from our parents that becomes our inner voice. What we then hear from our critical inner voice becomes our limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs range from: “I can’t do this” and “I will never be XYZ,” to “I’m not good enough” and “I don’t matter.”
Your limiting beliefs become the rules you live by, yet you’re probably not even aware of them. These unspoken beliefs throw you off track despite your best intentions.
It’s why you have issues with food.
It affects your romantic relationships.
It affects the way you parent (the cycle continues).
It dictates your relationship with money, wealth, and abundance.
It’s why life still feels hard even though you already stopped drinking.
You drank alcohol because drinking temporarily took away that critical voice. But the more you drank, the louder that voice became when it returned. And everything got worse from there.
Now that you’ve stopped drinking, you are bumping up against your limiting beliefs all the time, but you may not even see them. It’s why you’re stuck.
Limiting beliefs are so much easier to see in other people than in yourself. Go figure.
But with the right guidance, you can recognize how your limiting beliefs have held you back, and you’ll understand how you can transform them.
Don’t go through life avoiding this crucial work.
I know how to get you free.
“Today is a year of sobriety and I can’t believe that I’m here. This time last year, I dreaded and feared every day of my life. I doubted and shamefully regretted every choice I made. I walked on eggshells, frightened that with each subsequent step I might break a shell and expose the ugly and true me. Things are so much better today. My life is back in color, and I have learnt that doesn’t have to mean everything is “great,” I still have problems and difficult parents and life. But I’m here and I’m present and I’m grateful for your support and hand when I needed it most. I am a warrior and I’m feeling very proud of myself in a sacred and very personal way that is hard to give words to. Thank you, Veronica, from the bottom of my heart for giving me the ability to fight for me.”
—Debbie, age 50
You don’t get a positive mindset by willing away the negativity. Or stuffing it down while you put on a happy face. That will backfire on you. (You might’ve tried it already. It doesn’t work.)
Instead, you’ve got to identify your limiting beliefs, understand where they come from and why, and then reprogram your mind with empowering beliefs to replace them.
I’ve got lots of tools and practices to help you identify your limiting beliefs so you can root them out and plant new seeds that empower you to grow beyond what you’ve been able to accomplish so far.
I’ve shared some of these tools in the Sober Mindset FREE 7-day Training, but the truth is, this is the work of a lifetime.
It takes time to embed these practices and reset your mind.
It will change everything for you.
But—and I’ve said this many times—you’ve got to do the work. This is the internal work I talk about all the time. We’re getting down to the nitty gritty steps you need to take to finally achieve emotional sobriety.
Are you ready to take a deep-dive into mindset work?
Would you love to have a structured environment with plenty of guidance, feedback, and accountability to ensure you’re taking the right steps to change your beliefs—and staying on track?
I am running a 9-month Sober Mindset Immersion that begins Monday, March 9th and ends in December.
Change your relationship with alcohol.
Change your relationship with yourself and others.
Finally feel comfortable in your own skin.
Change your life for the better.
This is all possible for you.
“Veronica helped me to really see the part I played in orchestrating my own misery. I couldn't take responsibility for myself and expected everyone around me to be responsible for my experience and emotions. She helped me realize that I had worth inside me beyond what I could fathom—it wasn't found in careers, or relationships, or even my daughter. I was worthy and loved before and without all of these things.” —Chriz, age 34
Spend the rest of 2020 resetting your mind so that you can live the sober life of your dreams. This is what emotional sobriety is all about
9 Modules with Veronica
Each module consists of a TEACHING session and follow-up COACHING session to embed the mindset shifts. Take action in between every session and get feedback along the way to ensure you’re getting the results you seek.
2 Bonus Modules
Two bonus modules with qualified psychotherapists: Undoing Your Childhood Programming with Soberful’s Chip Somers, and How to Silence the Inner Critic with Lynn Matti, author of Five Weeks to Self-Confidence.
Private access to an online community (off Facebook!) where you can share your challenges, wins, and growth with like-minded individuals who are on the same path. Get feedback when you need it, with the option to remain anonymous.
Over our 9-months together you will learn:
How to move from a fixed to growth mindset
Recognize and prevent ‘self-sabotage.’
Move through ‘upper limits.’
Discover the limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind
Reprogram your subconscious mind with new empowering beliefs
Create a sober mindset that empowers you in your sobriety and every area of your life.
In The Sober Mindset 9-Month Immersion you’ll work to improve five main areas of your life:
☞ Sobriety. Finally understand why people say sobriety is so fantastic—and live that truth for yourself.
☞ Relationships. Unearth limiting beliefs that are causing conflict in your relationships. Discover a better way to navigate difficulties and get to the heart of the matter to create better connections.
☞ Parenting. Reveal the parenting cycles you’re repeating with your children and transform your experience with them.
☞ Career. Find fulfillment in your work by shifting the beliefs that hold you back professionally.
☞ Purpose. Discover who you are really meant to be, and step into that reality rather than simply wishing things were different. Learn how to create your future by starting with today.
“Veronica challenged me to explore who I really am, which was tough at first. She was there to walk me through it. She gave me new tools to improve my marriage and parenting, methods to get in control of my emotions, and helped me heal an emotional wound I’d been carrying around for five years. Veronica has taught me that sobriety is so much more than quitting drinking. It’s creating an experience of life that’s as full and rich as possible. I’m now five months sober (a huge milestone in my adult life!) and I feel a sense of unlimited potential because of my time with Veronica." —Lauren, age 37
Pay in Full (and get AWESOME bonuses*)
of just $555* a month
Yes! I want to join but I have questions.
*Pay in full and get these fabulous BONUSES:
☞ One personal online coaching session with Veronica Valli.
☞ Soberful Freedom 6-week digital sobriety program.
☞ Value $1500
How do I know this will work for me? If you’re here, you understand that you still need to do the inner work that’s required to achieve emotional sobriety. Limiting beliefs are difficult to identify without some guidance. If you are dedicated to implementing the exercises we teach you into your life—and sharing your results and struggles along the way to get feedback about how to make the changes you seek—then yes, this program will work for you. We use our experience to give you the knowledge, skills, and feedback you need—it’s up to you to do the work.
What if I’m still drinking? The Sober Mindset Immersion is designed for people who are already sober. You won’t be able to do this work effectively with alcohol clouding your perception. Wait until you’re sober. Soberful has lots of resources for people who are still trying to get sober. Check out The Sober Kickstart here.
I’m sober. I’m doing pretty well. Is this program for me? The truth is, we all have struggles. Even if alcohol is no longer a thought in your mind, it’s likely that there are difficult areas in your life that you’d love to improve. Everyone can benefit from mindset work. The real work in alcohol recovery has to do with all the underlying issues we face on a day-to-day basis. If you want to improve your relationships, parenting, and career, or if you’re unsure of your purpose in life, The Sober Mindset Immersion can help.
Do I get access to The Sober Mindset Immersion right away? As soon as you pay, you’ll receive an email that shows you how to access to the online community where you can begin interacting with others who are on the same journey. The course officially begins Monday, March 9.
How many sessions are there a month?
There are two sessions per month (plus the bonus modules), all sessions are recorded. In the TEACHING module, Veronica will give you precise, actionable homework. You will be required to practice new behaviours and strategies designed to shift your mindset. In the COACHING session, you can ask questions, get support and help to integrate the learning, so it becomes subconscious. There will be specific work about identifying and removing limiting beliefs and thought patterns. In addition to this, there is an online group where Veronica will be available to answer questions and provide further support.
What if I can’t watch the training and coaching sessions live? Every session will be recorded, so you will be able to access the videos after they occur.
For how long do I get access to the program? The Sober Mindset is a 9-month immersion. You will have access to the community and course materials through mid-December of 2020.
I don’t use Facebook. Can I still participate? The Sober Mindset community will not be on Facebook. We use an online platform that allows us to create posts just like in Facebook, as well as to host all the videos and training materials in one place. The Sober Mindset Immersion is hosted within our Soberful Life online community platform. If you are not already a Soberful Life member, we can give you a 'back-door' link to join when you sign up for The Sober Mindset. (Membership to Soberful Life is $23.99 a month).
Do I have to reveal my real name when I create a profile? If you prefer to keep your communications confidential, you can create an anonymous profile.
Because we limit the number of people in each coaching group all sales are final, there are no exceptions.
Veronica Valli is a psychotherapist, recovery coach, level two EFT (emotional freedom technique) practitioner, MASC life coach, author of books Why You Drink and How to Stop and Get Sober Get Free, and cohost of the Soberful Podcast. She has been in recovery and continuously sober for 19 years and has been working as a recovery coach and therapist for 18 years.
Veronica passionately believes that anyone can recover from alcohol if they are given the right tools and support. She has personally helped thousands of women transform their lives. Veronica believes that alcohol is only a symptom of a deeper underlying problem, and that to recover, thrive and become the women we are truly meant to be, we need to embrace the process of change.
Now based in the USA, she works with women all over the world who seek freedom from alcohol through her online programs, Facebook groups, and one-on-one or group coaching. Veronica is married and lives on Long Island with her husband and two sons.